Colin, Patrick's comments ...
Published by Marc Wehmeijer, Founder
Colin,
Patrick's comments and sources are very complete and valuable to find answers to your specific needs. We are manufacturing and installing the following systems in Mexico: http://www.aquatec.sk/en/. Better check Aquatec's website as it is in English.
The advantage is that you can reuse every liter of household water in irrigation, we are even treating it to a level of quality that allows for reuse in toilets. The disadvantage is the energy consumption. For the same reason I would not even consider installation an aerobic wastewater treatment and recycling system if the use of the off-grid building is very low.
Good luck and best regards, Marc