You can type water footprint in your web searcher, you will see some specialized websites
I don't suggest any because I've not found one fully trustworthy
Regardless that wastewater, ALL KIND OF CONTAMINATED WATER EXCEPT RADIO ACTIVE, CAN BE INFINITELY RECYCLED AS POTABLE ONE, of course you have to use or know the right technology as ours.
It will depend on the respective actual industry designs and configurations
the Water Research Commission in South Africa has produced some really useful water and wastewater use publications per major industries where specific water use are presented
you should be able to access them, referenced NATSURV and WRC on a Google type search should find them, Herewith reference to one I can share
Depends on the size of the refinery, but can take their production of oil in K bbl/day (barrel =42 gallons) and multiply by 8 for a rough estimate. Almost all is treated and discharged for refineries. Costs too much to clean it up for reuse. The ROI isn’t there yet. You are never going to have a $ saving project, but rather has to be driven by Environmetal stewardship. Thanks, Sean